IRR: Ideal. Real. Right.

"If we remain stuck in the idea that every potential mate must meet an idealistic standard, we miss out on real opportunities to meet real people." ~ Jean Cirillo

As early as young age, people begin to dream—a picture perfect family, predetermined career, and the like. Most of us have this innately. We are inspired on looking forward to the future. We think ahead. We imagine things in ways we want it to be. But between love and career, which do you think confuses the Right, Real and Ideal? Perhaps, many would go for love.

Idealistic and Realistic Standard

Would you settle for someone who's real or ideal? How will you know if that person is the right one? Apparently, this is one of the most simplest questions in the world and yet remains complicated. From the moment you read this, think of someone whom you think is ideal.

• good-looking; handsome, beautiful, a hunk, a goddess
• rich; has a living, a business, and a established career
• smart; sports buff 
• talented; dances, sings, acts

Aren't the characteristics lovely? Yes. He/she is ideal. But is that person real? I mean, in a different perspective, could you come up something real with the person you think is ideal? Not all the time. Now, take a second to think someone who has been there for you all the time?

• listens to your stories and problems
• accepts and respects you
• spends time with you
• makes you happy, feel loved and secure

Have you thought of someone? If you did, then someone real do exists! And since you were able to recognize the difference between the two, congrats! you are a normal person who dreams and comprehends. :)

Realizing the Right One

Luckily, there are some who met theirs who are both ideal and real. Someone they are deeply in love with who has likable characteristics and individuality. However, we all have personal preferences. Someone who is ideal and real for you may not be the same for the other. In the end, does it really matter? When the right one comes, you'll know. So for those who are deaf and blind who keep on denying that they already found the one. Here's a quick checklist:

• He/She is the right one when you stopped thinking on where standard he/she belongs.
• When you no longer care if that person doesn't meet any of your standards.
• When you look at the person and not on what that person has to offer.
• When your questions in life finally had answers. and,
• When you can't even ask for more.

Now, think again...

Last Note

Remember that someone who's ideal cannot always be real and sometimes someone who's real can barely be ideal. The chance of meeting the right one always depend on you. Fate brings you on the situation that you yourself has made.